getting some air

Now normally taking some time away from a relationship to sort out feelings isn't such a bad idea and can be a good experience..... as long as the person you're in the relationship with is aware of what you're doing. Did I cheat? Yes. Was it wrong? Yes. Do I regret it? No.

I didn't start out with any intention of cheating. I thought we were in some kind of a rut due to the hours and hectic schedules we were working. I thought that it'd be a good idea to look for a new job with more regular hours so we could have more time to concentrate on the relationship.

In my quest for a new job I ended up befriending a local business owner that was around my age. It started out as a part time job and progressed to something else. We were both in similar places in our respective relationships and would often spend hours after closing just talking about our significant others and how we wished we knew how to fix our troubled relationships. Quite honestly, since hind sight is always 20/20, if we had put that much effort into the relationships, we probably wouldn't have turned to each other. Sexually or Emotionally. After about 2 months of a steamy sexual affair we decided that we need to cool it and try to make an effort to make things work with our better halves.

I threw myself into trying to be a better girlfriend to the guy I'd been seeing. I made the extra effort to spend more time with him, cook dinner, and try to recapture that spark we used to have. But it just wasn't there. I should have left then when I realized it. But I let it drag on for months letting the poor guy think everything was OK, all the while I was miserable.